Wednesday, December 27, 2006

NEW ...

Once I am out of the fog of this last week, I will take the huge step toward getting with the program of updating my blog to the new technology. One of the things I also intend doing is making a regular feature of, 'MY FAVORITE INCOMING EMAIL OF THE WEEK.'

I received this piece today. It is not the first time I have seen it. The beauty of it is that it is always appropriate to what is going on when you do receive it. What I need today is reassurance, so it couldn't have come at a better time.
'Thank you, Ed' for sharing it with me.
My wish is that you will gain some inspiration from it.
[ My prayer is that Blogger doesn't turn this into a spacing monstersaurus-rex challenge for me :o) ]
(Added later - 'montesaurus-rex' is putting it mildly. As much as I love you, my blog, this piece, every single living, breathing and walking thing in the entire universe, I can't fix it or work out how it looks perfect on the 'create page' and like this on the published page. I hope you will still enjoy it!)

The Awakening
by Sonny Carroll
A time comes in your life when you finally get it ...
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your
tracks and somewhere, the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and cying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child
quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you
shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of
wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes,
This is your awakening ...
You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to
change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the
next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming
and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren't always fairy
tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily
ever after" must begin with you and in the process,
a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always
love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and that's OK. (They are entitled
to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and
championing yourself and in the process, a sense of
new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you
(or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they
say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that
it's not always about you. So you learn to stand on your own and to take care
of yourself and in the process, a sense of
safety & security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they
are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process,
a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you,
is a resultof all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche.
You begin tosift through all the junk you've been fed about how you
should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh,
what you should wear and where you should shop
and what you should drive, how and where you should live and
what you should do for a living, who you should marry and what
you should expect of a marriage, the importance of
having and raising children or what you owe your parents.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view.
You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the
doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have brought into to begin with
and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and there there is power and glory
in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a
"consumer" looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals
of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon
which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything; it's not your job to save the world
and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry
and that mrtyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love.
How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving
and when to walk away. You learn not to project your
needs or your feelings onto a relationship.
You learn that you will not be more beautiful,
more intelligent, more lovable or more important because of the
man on your arm or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would
have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.
You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love;
and you learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms,
just to make you happy.
You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You look in the mirror and come to terms with
the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10
and you stop trying to compete with
the image inside your head and agonizing over how you "stack up."
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over
and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK
and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things
you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.
You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love,
kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less.
You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes
you, to glorify you with his touch and in the process,
you internalize the meaning of self-respect.
And you learn that you body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it
and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet,
drinking more water and taking more time to exercise.
You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear.
So you take more time to rest. Just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul;
so you take time to laugh and to play.
You learn that for the most part in life, you get what you believe you deserve
and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is work working for
and that wishing for something to happen,
is different from working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction,
discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone
and that it's OK to risk asking for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time:
FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears,
because you know that whatever happens you can handle it
and to give in to fear, is to give away the right to
live on your terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud
of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get
what you think you deserve and that
sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.
On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things.
You learn that G-d isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers;
it's just life happening.
You learn to deal with evil in it most primal state; the ego.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment
must be understood and redirected or they will
suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many
of the simple things we take for granted;
things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about;
a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself,
by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to
never ever settle for less than your heart's desire.
You hand a wind chime outside your window so you can
listen to the wind, and you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep
trusting and stay open to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart and with G-d by your side
you take a stand, you take a deep breath
and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.